Let Me Direct You Elsewhere…

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Introverts In The Dearest Place On Earth: I love reading about both extroverts and introverts as I am an introvert married to an extrovert. And as the years pass by He has started taking on my introvert qualities and I have taken on some extrovert qualities.

The Hardest Sins To Talk About: Ed Stetzer gives some wise counsel on how we can lovingly confront sin in someone else. It’s a tough subject, but one we should probably think more about.

Debunking The Myths Of OCD: I found this really interesting.

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Picture Of The Week…

Well I pretty much never do this anymore, but I figured now was the time. The sun is hot and shining everyday and so my plants are in full bloom.

Here are some shots of my front porch and yard.

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I love the purple in the pot above…so pretty!

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There is nothing better then fresh herbs and I pretty much use them every day! So far I have mint, thyme, cilantro, oregano, parsley, rosemary, chives and swiss chard (which isn’t a herb but still good!). When it gets a little hotter I’ll add some basil to the mix and see how it does.

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And this last one is just a bonus of my little munchkin and me. She just makes me smile! So that’s it for now, have a blessed weekend!

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Beyonce’s Behind And Other Reasons I’m Not A Feminist…

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There are many reasons for which I do not subscribe to the F word. So this is just one of them.

You may have noticed that Feminism is posh again. (Do people still say posh? I guess I do). There are many pop culture voices ringing the Fem-bell loudly like Beyoncé, Lena Dunham, Emma Watson and for the younger girls Tavi Gevinson. If I met these women I bet I’d really like them. They seem charismatic, likable, intelligent and well spoken and all of them are on a mission.

But modern feminism (can we all just admit?), has lost a bit of its sophistication. Sure there are some modern points to be made. I imagine being more qualified than a man and making less in wages than him in the work place would be frustrating. So I’ll give ya that.

However, lets face it, most of the current feminist quarrels have more to do with Beyoncé (being a wife and mom) having the right to twerk on stage, then it has to do with women’s equality in the workplace. The fight nowadays is about women in general having the right to sleep around just like men are allowed to do. It is mostly about sexual freedom and rights to do whatever we want regardless of its disgusting or perverted nature. Because hey, men get to do it, so so should women!

Now with all that in mind, lets look at Malala Yousafzai. The 17-year-old Pakistani girl who is currently fighting for the rights of girls to be educated in Pakistan. She was shot in the face for her cause and has won a Nobel Peace Prize for her courageousness. She doesn’t care about being allowed to wear a low-cut shirt, all she wants is to be able to be taught by a teacher in public. If you haven’t read about her, you should.

If feminism meant standing up for causes like this – ones that involve character and respect for our mind’s – I would walk around with a projected image of Feminist behind me everywhere I went.

Why?

It’s a legitimate cause.

Why isn’t sexual freedoms also legitimate?

Because, if all your friends jumped off a bridge, would you? (I wish I didn’t have to get all mothery on you, but you made me.)

Here is the modern-day logic of feminism. Men can sleep around, talk dirty, take their shirts off and act crass all they want and no one says boo. But when a woman does all those things, she is labelled a slut and told she is trashy. This is unfair, so therefore we should fight for the same rights that men have sexually.

Instead of raising the bar, we just lower it. Instead of standing taller and maintaining that kind of behaviour is below our level of good character as women, we just join them in the mire. We are essentially the equivalent of a younger, jealous sibling feeling left out because our older sibling gets to go out with friends and smoke.

As women we’ve just taken up smoking to prove a point about our independence. And it will feel great for a while…

…until we all die of lung cancer.

Why do we want to roll with the pigs? Why don’t we just start saying boo!?

Heres the thing. Not all men are piggy, crass, sex-addicted morons like the ones we as women seem to admire and want desperately to emulate without judgement. I know this because I’m married to a good one. And I know many other good ones too.

In fact the men that are not tasteless are the ones that are usually praised in the media (as they should be). We even like to call them hero’s, because instinctively we all know sexually loose and swingin’ men are kinda gross. In movies they are the ones we hate until they finally reform their ways at the end of the movie by becoming a one-woman-man.

But we still get surprised by the good men, don’t we? Because they are chivalrous and speak intelligently. They are poised and humble. They admit wrong and accept judgement for that wrong. They serve their families sacrificially and they use their voice to bring peace and encouragement to those around them. And we all love ’em when we meet ’em. As women this is the kind of men we want to marry. And it’s certainly the kind of men we want our daughters to marry. Am I right?

Women…wake up! This is the behaviour we ought to exhibit!

Exploiting our bodies is not trailblazing. I have no desire to take a bullet for twerking rights. Is this a worthy cause? In the grand scheme of life, troubles and freedoms, this is the great battle we are fighting?

So women…hear me now…

It’s time to unapologetically raise the bar.

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Let Me Direct You Elsewhere…

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If You See Something, Say Something: I’ve been around the church block long enough to know how important this is. If you’re hoping that something will resolve itself, you need more fear that it will blow up terribly. If you are praying that God will bring something to light, listen to his call to “take no part in the unfruitful works of darkness, but instead expose them” (Eph. 5:11, ESV). 

To The Sons And Daughter Of Divorce: Even if you’re an adult and your parents divorced a long time ago, this is still really helpful. Divorce “attacks the self, because the self is formed within the belonging and meaning provided by the family. When it is destroyed, the threat of lost place and lost purpose becomes a reality. Without place or purpose, one becomes a lost self” (Andrew Root, Children of Divorce, 21)

How Pastoral Debt Is Destroying Churches: Boy is this true! There needs to be someway to turn the ship.

When God Interrupts Your Plans: Yup this is me too! I usually handle these interruptions to my life poorly. I react with frustration and anger. Like a young child, I want to stomp my feet and say, “It’s not fair!” I blame others for inconveniencing me. I’ll even throw my own pity-parties.

More Then Words – Jack Black & Jimmy Fallon: I know the whole world has seen this at least once, but I just really love it. It makes me happy. I loved this song growing up and I welcome the reboot!

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Yummy Fudgy Cookies…

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This recipe is just too good to keep to myself. These cure any chocolate craving and taste like a mix between fudge, cookie and brownie. I originally got it from a Weight Watchers website, trying to be healthy and thinking it would suck because of the healthiness. But oh boy was I wrong. Unfortunately I wouldn’t put these in the category of healthy due to the volume of sugar. However these little morsels of heaven are still not gonna make you hate yourself if you stick to only eating two or three of them. Which I admit is a challenge. But lets all take a deep breath and excercise some restraint. :)

Without further ado, here is the recipe!

Yummy Fudgy Cookies:

(2 points if you make them big, 1 point if you keep them small – Weight Watchers)

1/3 cup Cocoa, 1/4 cup Margarine or Butter, 3/4 cup Sugar, 1/2 cup Apple Sauce, 1 tsp Vanilla, 1 1/2 cup Flour, 1 tsp Baking Powder, 1/4 tsp Salt, 2 tbsp Powdered Sugar

Mix the cocoa, margarine and sugar in mixer. Add the apple sauce and vanilla. In a another bowl mix the flour, baking powder and salt. Slowly add flour mix to the mixer. Mix well. Roll pieces into little balls (best results), or put them in globs on the pan. Bake for 8 minutes at 375. Let cool for a few minutes and then sprinkle powdered sugar on top.

(sorry the pics aren’t great, but you get the idea!)

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Enjoy!

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Let Me Direct You Elsewhere…

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Go Forth And Multiply: How Many Children Should I Have?: This is by far the best article I have read on this subject! It address’ sooo many parts of this questions, which is increasingly becoming a place of much judgement. What’s your motivation for having children? Is it gospel-centered? Or, is it personal preference? Do you feel pressure to have more children? By what standard are you measuring yourself? Is it the ever-expanding evangelical family sub-culture, where even reproduction has become a competition of sorts? Or is it in God’s provision of children as a blessing?

Beware Gluten-Free Preaching: Yes! I love the imagery in this. This is a helpful article for not just those who preach but those who value faithful preaching in general.

An Account Of The Nepal Earthquake: I have friends in Nepal right now, who experienced the recent earthquake. Fortunately, they are safe and so is the orphanage they serve. Here is what happened and please continue to pray and give support as you can in this time.

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Vergara, Her Ex, And Their Frozen Children…

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As uncomfortable as it may be, let’s talk about it.

There is a pop culture news story getting lots of attention, and I can’t seem to get away from it. I see it everywhere. And it makes me cringe. I’m not usually one to know all the juicy Hollywood gossip unless it comes across my path naturally. Mostly all that nonsense is silly and easy to ignore. But this story. Well it hurts my heart.

It is a complicated tale, so let me try to explain it. Sofia Vergara is a beautiful Colombian actress who is known for her humor and sexiness on the TV show Modern Family. Last year she was engaged to a millionaire named Nick Loeb. And they were in love so the two of them decided to plan for the future by giving her eggs and his sperm to the fertility clinic in order to create embryos. This probably seemed like a good idea at the time due to her age and their plans to be together forever.

But this is not how their love story would go. Sofia and Nick broke up. And quickly she found a new Hollywood heart-throb to shack up with. And just to make things extra complicated, those two are now engaged. So what should be done with the microscopic embryo’s Nick and Sofia created, now frozen in time?

They are currently fighting this battle with their lawyers.

Sofia would like for them to be destroyed because obviously she doesn’t want to have a child with her now ex-fiancee. Plus she has a new future with a new man to worry about. The problem is that Nick, the father to these kids, want them to be sparred. Really, if we are being honest, we can see how this is truly a pickle they are in. And both of them have a point.

I think it will come as no shock to anyone that I believe life begins at conception (even when that conception happens in a lab) and the rights of those tiny babies should be taken just as seriously as the rights of the woman’s body who will carry them. But here we have a new issue. It’s not really about Sofia having a right to what happens to her own body. Nick is not asking her to bear these kids physically. He just doesn’t want to have them destroyed, due to his (similar to mine) beliefs about life.

None-the-less Sofia has no desire to be a mother and she doesn’t want to waive her rights as mom, knowing Nick is raising her own child without her.

What a mess.

Now I really can’t imagine what it would be like to be in their position and I have no intention to treat this situation as though it can be easily handled. I mean it when I say, I understand both sides. It’s just that no matter how unfortunate the circumstance I just will never agree that destroying embryo’s is an ethical thing to do. Obviously I feel this way because I have specific scientific beliefs about conception. But even more than that, those frozen children have both a father and a mother. And because Sofia’s body is not in the equation, I believe the father has just as many rights to those kids as the mother. (Truth be told, I would say the same thing even if a woman’s body was in the equation also, but even more so in this case.)

She can’t simply make the decision just purely based on the fact that she is a woman. Men have rights to their own children too.

The painful fact is that these two people took a major risk when they entered that fertility lab. They took a chance on their family before they had made any vows to each other. These two brought children into the world, hoping it would work out. But it didn’t. They are like every other couple with children who break up. Only their kids happen to be waiting in a freezing volt somewhere.

Believe it or not there are other options. Albeit probably nothing they would be open to, but here is a suggestion anyway.

Did you know that people can adopt embryos? Yup, you can. And in today’s society where child-bearing can take new forms, this is important for people to know. Believe it or not, there are people in this world who love human life so much they are willing to carry a child to term and then raise that child as their own, even though they are not genetically related. It happens. And its an option.

Anyway, I don’t know how Sofia and Nick’s story will end. I have a guess. And I hope they do the right thing. But it’s just another reminder to us all, that it is a whole new world out there.

Lord give us wisdom!

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