Let Me Direct You Elsewhere…


Does Trusting God Remove Anxiety: I found this very comforting. For anyone who struggles with anxiety either clinically or not – read this.

For 100 Years Planned Parenthood Silenced Millions Of Women: This is a very important article. For a company who says their whole purpose is to be there for women, let’s not forget the women who aren’t heard by Planned Parenthood in regards to their abortion experience.

LGBT Group Threatens Johns Hopkins Over Report That Science Doesn’t Show People Are Born Gay, Transgender: It is very interesting how secular culture is trying to silence scientific data. Scientific answers began the secular movement. How times have changed.

Prone To Wander: How informed is your conscience? A tender conscience is the fruit of word-enriched cultivation. A tender conscience takes our thoughts, feelings, and actions captive and examines them in the light of the Bible. It should rebuke us when we find ourselves wayward and encourage us when we obey.

Albert Mohler And Russell Moore On Trump And The Election: These are two men that I respect extremely. And I couldn’t agree with both of them more on this subject. Anyone else can’t wait for November to be over? Sheesh.

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Halloween – Where O Death Is Your Sting?…


I’m taking a little break from the Biblical Womanhood series this week. But I’ll be back at it next week!


Every year is the same. October hits, and every store on the planet pulls out its most silly and disgusting Halloween decorations and then I have to explain to my children about the reality of both death and evil.

We have these conversations throughout the year at times also. But this time of year brings with it so many kinds of visual reminders that turn into nightmares for my kids. October brings nightmares. No other time of the year are my kids exposed to fake decapitated heads, bloodied limbs and horrifying masks hanging in the grocery store. Halloween, however, gives permission for all kinds of disgusting fantasy.

It’s perfectly suitable in October. Even though every other season, most would deem it despicable.

And it’s usually the Christian who stands up in aggravation of such behavior. And to some degree we should. At least to try and protect the eyes of our little ones and guard their hearts and spirits.

Because we can see past the hype for fun to the truth behind it all. That truth being, we live in a world filled with people who love to mix up light and darkness. And so we echo Isaiah’s lament of woes in Isaiah 5:20.

Woe to those who call evil good
    and good evil,
who put darkness for light
    and light for darkness,
who put bitter for sweet
    and sweet for bitter!

We see that evil is very much real and very much prodded it at for our enjoyment this time of year. Christians should be the ones who see it all too clearly.

Filthy wickedness and evil sit in the heart of every human on earth. And death awaits all whose heart is currently beating. And its natural for us to be consumed with wonder over the thought of death and what comes after. Every soul ponders the mysteries of it, because it will take us all.

Yet the Christian sits in peace at the thought.

For the Christian, we think of that day and see it for what it truly is – a moment that takes us from one reality to another. And for this reason we can echo the apostle Paul in his mockery of death in 1 Corinthians 15:54-55…

When the perishable has been clothed with the imperishable and the mortal with immortality, then the saying that is written will come to pass: “Death has been swallowed up in victory.” “Where, O death, is your victory? Where, O death, is your sting?”

The world makes light of death by celebrating and encouraging the depravity within, having no idea what is awaiting them. They should tremble in fear, but instead they embrace the darkness in complete ignorance of its reality.

We, however, can rest assured that our perishing will come but will immediately be consumed in the shared triumph of Christ. And so the sting of that fateful day becomes null. And we can mock it, like Paul does, because it no longer holds any power over us. For all it does is bring final glory. And our desire should be that the world have the same assurance and victory.

Where death, is your sting?! Where is your victory?! Christ has trounced death!

So this Halloween, we ought not to fear. And encourage our kids not to fear. For death has no hold on us! We must find strength in the good news of the gospel. And we must share the victorious Christ who put death in its place, and numbed the sting of sin.

As you walk around your community and talk to your neighbors, pray for the same assurance to come to them and for God to give you a genuine love for them. Pray for the words to say and the wisdom to say it well.

Go love your neighbors with the hope of Christ this Halloween.

And be light in the darkness. For this shadowy world needs it.

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Let Me Direct You Elsewhere…


 A Fifty Gallon Drum Of Lame Sauce: If I could get away with the same kind of overly sarcastic and mocking writing that Douglas Wilson can – I’d do it too. I found this piece equal parts utterly hilarious and deeply disturbing. Yikes. This is what happens when a seminary goes completely liberal.

Rejoice Even Though – Facing The Challenges To Joy: Perhaps your finding joy a problem these days. Joy is “a feeling of great pleasure and happiness.” It’s the emotion we feel when life is good — when the sun is shining, when our team is winning, when we are healthy, happy, and heartened. Most people do not typically speak of the happiness of heartbreak, the pleasure of migraines, or the bliss of losing.

Seeking Clarity In This Confusing Election Season: I’m not American and yet I find myself being pulled into the mud of this mucky election. We can’t get away from it! I have plenty of opinions (as does everyone on earth) on how I think things should go. But I believe this is a very clarifying post for Christians who find themselves lost in it all. Give it a read!

I Was Pregnant, And Then I Wasn’t: It’s Infant Loss Awareness Week. Miscarriage is a deeply dark and lonely thing to experience. Give this lengthy and raw post on one woman’s journey through miscarriage a read.

Parents, Let Your ‘No’ Be ‘No’: I really needed to read this one and be reminded of something so basic for such an important reason. I hasten to add that the word no is much more palatable when spoken and enforced by a parent who also often says yes.

Hacksaw Ridge: I usually don’t get excited about a war movie. But my little passivist heart can hardly take it, with this one. It looks good. And I might just try to see it in theater.

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Biblical Womanhood – Beauty (Part 2)…


This is a topic we read and hear about a lot in the church and you may be sick of it. But it’s still an important topic for us as women to engage with.


About a month ago I watched my very girly and pink daughter and her two neighbor  friends run up to each other before church and immediately start chattering about their clothes. Look at the bow in my hair…I have sparkly shoes…that’s a nice necklace…my skirt is flowy…I like that dress…and on and on it went. Proving to me that there’s something within the girl-heart that is drawn to how we look. At every age there is a desire to look a certain way.

Without a doubt we live in a beauty obsessed culture. No woman needs to be told this (we all know it). In fact the culture also knows it enough that even it is trying to solve the problem. And we see this in things like Dove commercials. I like to call it the “just love yourself” movement. But we love this message because it preaches to every single one of our insecurities about our appearances.

The problem is that it’s not working.

Dove can keep coming out with inspirational commercials about how girls are special and beautiful and wonderful regardless of what the scale says or how tour hair looks or how we dress….and there will still be girls and women starving themselves and hating themselves tomorrow.

We have to look deeper if we’re going to find true satisfaction in our souls. So let’s look at 1 Peter 3:1-6.

Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct. Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear—but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening.

The grand topic here is of humble submission. Which admittedly is a word (submission) many of us women aren’t fans of. But it’s one we must engage with because the Scripture speaks about it a lot.

Here in 1 Peter, what we have is an interesting dialogue on how a woman wins her either unchristian or nominally Christian husband to the faith. And right off the hop Peter says, “They may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives”. Which I don’t think means women shouldn’t talk about the goodness of God, because a husband would need to know what he’s being won to. But more likely means, don’t get preachy. Or naggy. He warns us that our actions are what is going to count most. And he even goes on to talk about our clothes in regards to this. Which might seem weird. Why does our clothes matter in winning our husbands to the faith?

But I can only imagine that as women our default would be to try and win our husbands by A. Our words or perhaps grumbles of criticism or B. By using our bodies. “If I’m sexy enough, maybe he’ll listen to my nagging.” And what Peter is saying here is, Ladies…it won’t work.

Braided hair and lavish gold jewelry in the time of this Scripture was considered highly sensual. Obviously it’s different now. We know what gets a man’s attention now –a-days.

1 Timothy 2 says the same thing. Paul here is addressing women, and it says this…

“Likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire, 10 but with what is proper for women who profess godliness—with good works

If you profess godliness…what will you have? Good works. But we always default to how we look. And what Paul is saying here is let your good works speak for itself!

And perhaps the “just love yourself” movement isn’t cutting it because it shouldn’t end there. Maybe it’s better said, “just love others”. Because how much of our time are we spending navel-gazingly trying to love ourselves when we can be busy loving others? I’m not saying we shouldn’t love ourselves, but life isn’t all about me and how I look. There’s work to do. And perhaps I need to get busy doing it.

Going back to 1 Peter 3, I believe verse 4 is the greatest command for women on this issue. It says “let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.”

So what does gentle and quiet spirit mean? Does this mean any woman with a fierce personality and loud laugh is outside God’s plan? Well no, because we must take the time to understand what these words mean.

Remember we are referring to our hidden, inner person here. It is not referring to a women’s boisterous personality. Quiet in this context might better be described as serene or tranquil. Which gives it a different feel. What we can say is that there is an inner depth of deep serenity in the name of God that resides in the Christian woman.

And we see this more fully because Peter goes on to admonish women to not fear anything at the end of verse 6, its says… if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening. In other words Peter is saying, let your gentleness and tranquility make you fearless! Because what do we have to fear if all our strength and hope comes from the Lord?

In the face of cultural pressure to look and act and be a certain way, we are told to stand fearlessly against it, seeking only what is precious in the eyes of the Lord. So do not read these verses as though what God wants in His women is doormat, weak-willed, brainless women, who only know how to do what they’re told.

A women who exsbits a gentle and quiet spirit is a women who wants to make much of Christ and less of herself. She is not someone who is out for her own glory. She is not trying to gain attention for the sake of herself. She is all about giving the glory to God and she is happy to make much of him.

We need to be more than just women who know how to do hair and make-up really well, who count calories like a pro and have a great fitness routine. Women who profess to worship Jesus will not be consumed with how we look.

We as women have a silly habit of sitting around and bemoaning our bodies. We can go on and on about how we look forever. It happens virtually every time I’m in a room with more then one woman. But when we sit around and talk at terrible length about how we look we show to the world where are true values lie. And we also show are children. Who might be listening in.

Let me be clear, being fit and perfectly dressed with a great haircut is not wrong. Loving your body and wanting to steward it through exercise is good. Caring about how you present yourself to the world in how you look is fine.

There are even times when God specifically uses people in Scripture because of their beauty to fulfill His plans. And that’s great.

But none of those things make you women of God.

On the flip side wearing a paper bag and refusing to exercise doesn’t automatically make you holy either. We also must remember that this is between you and God only. And Peter and Paul are not giving us grids that we get to judge other women with. We cannot resort to being women who judge holiness in ourselves or in other people based on how humble we look and how “caught up in the beauty culture” another women may seem to be by how she looks. Not wearing make-up doesn’t automatically make you godly. So don’t judge other women on this subject. Leave their journey up to God and remember that Jesus is the standard, and none of us live up.

And this is why I’m not going to give a list of rules here on what is appropriate to wear.  Because you already know what’s appropriate. And I won’t give you a list that will just tempt you to sheriff other women with.

But we as women struggle so much with this because we’ve bought two lies that the culture peach’s to us. First being we must be hot in order to be valued. And second that the solution to the problem is loving ourselves more. And we look in the mirror and we don’t like what we see, and we look in our hearts and we don’t like that either. Because our hearts are sick and in great need of redemption.

We need Christ to redeem our hearts and tell us that He loves us before we can even know how to love ourselves, but even then it doesn’t stop there. Because with Christ’s love comes our love for others. And when all those things start working the way they ought, you spend less time looking in the mirror and more time looking into the eyes of those in need.

Now I want to move onto a portion of this text that I believe needs some explanation. It’s in verse 5…

For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord.

What in the world does this mean? Does submission to my husband mean I must call him lord? Really?

There is one place where Sara refers to Abraham as lord. Just one. And it is in Genesis 18:12. What is happening here is God in the form of a person shows up and says Sara’s going to have a baby next year and she laughs in her tent and the Scripture says this, so Sara laughed to herself saying, after I am worn out and my lord is old shall I have pleasure? That’s it. Why would Peter use this? Of course using the term “my lord” back then was more currant than it is for us. So we wouldn’t use it in today’s context. But the best guess on this, is that Peter went back to Genesis to find an example of submission and he picked this because it’s just not a big deal. But a default way of talking. In Sara’s thoughtless and tired moments she spoke about her husband with that kind of respect.

In other words as a wife do you have to remind yourself constantly to speak well of and to respect your husband in day to day life? Do you submit to him willingly with all respect?

I’m a part of a moms group on Facebook and most of the conversations on this page are about things like breast-feeding and napping schedules. But every now and then I women will get on there and just rant about her husband. He’s lazy, he’s a moron, blah blah blah blah. And he just might be all those things, but yikes, is upchucking online and defaming him in print going to help?

How do we talk about our husbands in the mundane of life sitting around having coffee with our friends? Are we like the ranting ladies on Facebook or are we like Sara? If we do good like Sara, then we are her children, which is a good thing.

So if we as women believe that the call to be submissive, means to be weak, we are missing the point! I can’t make that more clear here.

Holy women in all fearlessness submit to our husbands. Holy women go to battle against cultures expectations. Holy women do good and have good deeds. Holy women are gentle and serene because we have deep roots in God. And perhaps most importantly Holy women hope in the Father.

Our hope is not in the conversion of our husband or in the way we attract attention by how we look. Our hope is in God. Proverbs 31:31-32 says…

Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain,
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
Give her of the fruit of her hands,
and let her works praise her in the gates.

And we love this scripture because it reminds us that it’s not the outward appearance that matters. Beauty will fade and fall and give way with age. But we must not miss what does matter; that we are women with fruit, who fear God and act in faith in the mission of Christ. Those things are what make us praise-worthy.

All of these Scriptures are admonishing us to make less of ourselves and much of Him. This is what it means to be humble women of God. I must decrease, He must increase.

And it’s a reminder I’m guessing most of us need.

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Let Me Direct You Elsewhere…


Adoption – God’s Glorious “Plan A”: I just love this! Earthly adoption is a pale representation of course, a small shard of glass mirroring the great chasm God crossed to redeem his people. But we see a shadow of what the Almighty has done for us, as an adoptive parent says to an orphan, “Come exactly as you are. Despite your history, your background, the hardships and sacrifice, I will love you anyway. Come. Be mine, and I will be yours.”

The Instagram Bible: Careful ladies, this is one we’ve all fallen into. It’s so easy to believe that the bible is full of nothing but rosy feel-good verses, when all your bible time consists of Instagram-bible searches. Beware lest it become for you your source of daily bread. It is telling a partial truth.

10 Things You Should Know About Tithing Under The Mosaic Covenant: It’s common to feel the pressure to give your 10% to the local church. And as someone whose entire livelihood depends on the congregations giving, I’d say its pretty important. However, I feel like this post is extremely helpful for those of you struggling with the question of why. And is the Bible as rigid on this as some church leaders like to say it is?

Ninja Warrior Course For A Five-Year-Old: My kids would go crazy for something like this! If only…

Electricity Free Amusement Park: Seriously? I love this! Creative people amaze me.

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Biblical Womanhood – The Fall (Part 1)…


Currently I’m teaching a series on Biblical Womanhood in the women’s ministry of my church. And this is why I’ve been so lacking in the blogging department. I’m still writing. A lot. Just not here in this forum. However I decided, why not do the series here also?! So over the next several weeks I will be adapting my messages for this blog. And you can come along with us on this journey of learning about God’s design for women. I hope you enjoy it. Today we start with Women and the fall.


Talking about men and women and marriage and relationships and gender roles and everything of the sort can bring up a myriad of emotion for us all. Especially those of us who’ve experienced some form of abuse, mistreatment or neglect at the hands of a man. So if this has been your experience, please don’t stop reading. What I’m about to teach has not been my experience growing-up. But it’s worth it to open yourself up to discovering the beauty of God’s design.

So let’s begin in the beginning.

In chapter 1 of Genesis, Moses paints for us a beautiful picture of the Lord speaking into being everything we see and touch and experience on earth. And all of it is named good. This chapter is all about goodness and order. God is putting into formation all things in an orderly and precise manner.

Then in chapter 2 Moses narrows in on God’s creation of man and women. Sin has not yet entered into the picture. But early in this chapter God gives Adam the command to not eat from one tree; the tree of knowledge of good and evil, or he will die. Eve has not been created yet, and so this interchange is between Adam and God alone. Which is important to note. But so far in this chapter everything is still as the Lord states so many times; it is good. This is the foundation for the existence of all of us. Then Genesis 2:18-25 says this.

Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” Now out of the ground the Lord God had formed every beast of the field and every bird of the heavens and brought them to the man to see what he would call them. And whatever the man called every living creature, that was its name. The man gave names to all livestock and to the birds of the heavens and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper fit for him.

Note here that this is the first time God senses something is wrong in the garden. There is a void in paradise. Adam is alone. So God parades the animals in front of Adam for him to name, and as Adam is doing this he also realizes that he’s alone. God brilliantly gives Adam an opportunity to recognize his need also. Read on.

So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. And the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. Then the man said,
“This at last is bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called Woman,
because she was taken out of Man.”
Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.

This a lovely chunk of Scripture about the beauty of marriage and yet you may have cringed at the word helper. This is a touchy one for a lot of us. Because we wonder, wait is that all I am? And if I’m single, does this make me purposeless? And these are legitimate questions. I’ve written about this before but let’s go over it again. Let’s look at Psalm 22:20

Our soul waits for the Lord; he is our help and our shield.

Who in this verse is the helper? God is. In fact there are many places in Scripture in which God is given the name helper. It is in fact a very important attribute of God. And so let me ask the question, is this demeaning for Him? Of course not. And so it should not be for us women. I dare say it is a title we ought to wear proudly, as it is one equated with God Himself. How could I find offense of such a Godly role?

Helping our husbands is a tall order. But it doesn’t end there for us. Because if my husband leaves this earth tomorrow, my identity doesn’t leave with him. And if you are single, this still applies to you also. There is so much work that needs to be done and women ought to be the best helpers in bringing about God’s love, peace and justice in the world. We must never stop helping to bring His Kingdom come.

If you want to do ministry, you got to be a helper.

Going back to Genesis, I want to make an important note about these verses. You will notice that God created Adam first. Which Paul writes further about in 1 Timothy 2:13, making this significant in speaking about headship in the role of the male. The very word headship might make you uncomfortable, but as archaic as it may seem I believe it’s a better word than leadership. Because leadership is not a definitive gender-role. Men and women should be leaders. Headship is the unique leadership of the man in the work of establishing order for human flourishing.

And the order in which God creates has significance.

Now some people object to this notion because God created animals before ever creating a human, which would mean that animals would have headship over humans. Right? Fair objection. But when the Hebrew people gave a special responsibility to the “firstborn” in the family, it never entered their minds that this responsibility would be nullified if the father happened to own cattle before he had sons. In other words, when Moses wrote this, he knew that the first readers would not lump animals and humans together as equal candidates for the responsibilities of the “firstborn”. And so, we shouldn’t either.

Headship is one of responsibility and in chapter 2:15 it says, The Lord God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to work it and keep it. Meaning it was part of the man’s good call to be a worker. This is pre-fall. And as I noted before God gave Adam the moral command of tending to the earth and being stewards of the animals as well as not touching the tree of knowledge. And there is no recording of God relaying this message also to Eve. Which mean’s the moral code of the garden and its carrying out was in the hands of Adam. It would be his role to relay the message to Eve. Which means manhood looks a lot like headship in being the provider/worker and moral leader in the family.

So you might be wondering what I am implying with this. So let me make it abundantly clear that I do not believe what Scripture is saying is that women are second-tier humans.
I also do not believe that this makes men more valuable than women. And I don’t believe this because I don’t believe it’s what Scripture teaches as a whole. The way Jesus treated women and the role women play in the life, death and resurrection of Christ is not one of obscurity.

Men and women are both written in Genesis as being created in Gods image. And that makes us absolutely without a doubt equal in value and role importance. Did God give just men a brain? Nope. Which means we as women should fiercely go hard after understanding truth. And seek to be truth-telling, gospel-saturated women of the Word. Our hands and feet doing the work of the ministry is just as important as male hands and feet.

Helper and Headship are two counter-cultural words. Yet both words were essentially created in the garden, when everything was good. Neither Adam nor Eve were ashamed of their nakedness nor their roles. And all was well and beautiful, until something happened. Moving along…

Genesis 3:1-13 says,

Now the serpent was more crafty than any other beast of the field that the Lord God had made.
He said to the woman, “Did God actually say, ‘You[a] shall not eat of any tree in the garden’?” 2 And the woman said to the serpent, “We may eat of the fruit of the trees in the garden, but God said, ‘You shall not eat of the fruit of the tree that is in the midst of the garden, neither shall you touch it, lest you die.’”

Notice how already Eve is getting it wrong. She says that God told them they weren’t allowed to even touch the tree, but that’s not true. He never said that. Doubt of Gods goodness is already invading her heart here. And already Gods commands are becoming confused. Let’s keep going.

But the serpent said to the woman, “You will not surely die. For God knows that when you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.” So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was to be desired to make one wise, she took of its fruit and ate, and she also gave some to her husband who was with her, and he ate. Then the eyes of both were opened, and they knew that they were naked. And they sewed fig leaves together and made themselves loincloths.
And they heard the sound of the Lord God walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and the man and his wife hid themselves from the presence of the Lord God among the trees of the garden. But the Lord God called to the man and said to him, “Where are you?” And he said, “I heard the sound of you in the garden, and I was afraid, because I was naked, and I hid myself.” He said, “Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten of the tree of which I commanded you not to eat?” The man said, “The woman whom you gave to be with me, she gave me fruit of the tree, and I ate.” Then the Lord God said to the woman, “What is this that you have done?” The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.”

And this is where our tidy relationships with our husbands, our kids, our parents and our friends fall completely apart. Isn’t it.

Most importantly the first sin that entered the world is where gender-roles lost their way and flipped completely. Notice who Satan chooses to attack? Eve. Because she’s weaker? No, more likely to intentionally unbalance God’s good design for men and women. This is what Satan does. It’s his aim to take shots very intentionally at Gods design. So do you think it’s any accident that he approaches the women?

She falls for his lies, but why does she do this? Where is the one who was given the moral compass from God Himself? Where’s the guy who’s supposed to be her protector? He’s standing right next to her. Because all she does is hand him the piece of fruit. And without hesitation he eats. And we know this is a ducking of His headship responsibilities because who does God call for when the deed is done? God calls the man! “Where are you?”

God knows it was Eve who was deceived yet He calls for Adam. Then Adam digs himself I nice big hole by pointing at Eve, calling her…the woman (she has a name!) YOU gave me! Which simultaneously diminishes his wife and condemns God as though it was His mistake.

Just like that, Satan spurned the order that God established, picking a fight with the women which in turn made the man weak-willed and passive. Which is exactly how he wants it. And he still wants it that way today.

We see this so often in men today. Certainly in the pop-culture representations of them on TV and in movies. And it is breeding husbands and fathers who are weak-willed and morally passive. But when I look at my husband, who is the polar opposite of my earthly father, I have great hope.

I’m so grateful that my children have a father who assertively loves them enough to protect them from evil in any way he can. Who decisively loves the Lord and desires to keep His commands and lead myself and my children in righteousness. He does not hold any title over our heads and abuse us with it, but sees it as a high-calling from God that he will be held accountable for one day. Because he will, just like Adam. And that knowledge makes him lead like Jesus, as a humble servant. Dying to himself daily. No he is not perfect. Not even close. But I thank God that my husband is earnest.

Ladies, when our roles function by God’s design it is the farthest thing from bondage. It is pure, unadulterated freedom. His way is beautiful. And do not make the mistake of lumping the abuses of headship by ungodly men with God’s loving order. Regardless of what our culture preaches, His order and design is the best way for human flourishing.

The Scripture goes on to explain the punishment for Adam and Eve’s sin. It says this in verses 16-19…

To the woman he said,
“I will surely multiply your pain in childbearing;
in pain you shall bring forth children.
Your desire shall be for your husband,
and he shall rule over you.”

So what do those last sentences mean. Your desire shall be for your husband. How is that a curse? Isn’t that a good thing? Or does this mean… we will love our husbands and they will abuse us? What is it?

(I know there has been some controversy around this with the recent changing of the ESV translation on this, so I’m going to stick with the original here.)

To best understand this word desire we need only look to Genesis 4:6-7. Here Cain has had his offering rejected by God while his brother Abel has had his offering accepted by God. Cain becomes furious and jealousy and murder are rising up in his heart. The Lord comes to Cain and gives him a warning. He says, “Why are you angry, and why has your face fallen? If you do well, will you not be accepted? And if you do not do well, sin is crouching at the door. Its desire is for you, but you must rule over it.” Here is that same word—desire.

This desire is more of a lion-in-wait kind of term. We will be jealous and angry at our husband’s position and it just might make us pounce. I don’t know about you, but that…I understand and can absolutely relate to. I am so full of pride, I fight my desire to take the reins from my husband daily.

So we see in these punishments how God has frustrated the created order. He has not dismantled it, just frustrated it. It’s the same with Adams punishment. In verses 17-19…

And to Adam he said,
“Because you have listened to the voice of your wife
and have eaten of the tree
of which I commanded you,
‘You shall not eat of it,’
cursed is the ground because of you;
in pain you shall eat of it all the days of your life;
thorns and thistles it shall bring forth for you;
and you shall eat the plants of the field.
By the sweat of your face
you shall eat bread,
till you return to the ground,
for out of it you were taken;
for you are dust,
and to dust you shall return.”

Adam was used to working in the garden but now it became challenging. It would require sweat and tears to do what once likely was easy and enjoyable. The order still stands, but by our own forefather’s choices, we have made it a struggle. Our relationships, our child-birth and our work. It’s all now riddled with sin and in need of Jesus saving grace.

And that is where I want to finish because the Lord is always good to provide grace. We see it even here Genesis. After Adam and Eve bring sin into the world forever, God could have just ended them all together. But He doesn’t. They leave the garden but not before God lovingly provides them with clothes. They didn’t deserve it, but He still loved them.

We can’t and will not live the way God intended and ordered us to live just in our own strength. We can’t. But Jesus came for such a reason as this.

Women, lets seek Christ’s strength and provision and goodness as we try to model how He has created us.

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 It’s Possible To Enjoy Watching Others Win: Is this hard for you? Watching others succeed in life? Or does envy win the day? This post is short but sweet and very important for probably everyone.

Listen More, Speak Less: What a good reminder! Since the fall of man, the human tongue has always been “a restless evil,” “a world of unrighteousness,” setting whole forests of humanity on fire.

John – The Bible Project: I should get paid by these people, right? Kidding (sorta). Anyway here’s a couple great videos about the book of John.

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