Recently the Femina blog posted an article entitled Mom-zilla. It was a great post that I thoroughly agree with (I suggest you read it). Nancy Ann is trying to admonish woman to not make their impending labor and delivery all about themselves. So many woman become bride-zilla’s before and during their wedding day, because the culture tells us that “this day/event, is all about you and what you want”. So Nancy Ann is wisely trying to push us to look at it differently. Instead of holding our birth plan (whether it be hospital birth with drugs, C-section or an all-natural home birth in a tub) in an open fist. Because like your wedding day, when things don’t go exactly as you planned you are more prone to act like a pre-madonna.
Her aim here is to make us all see that we are so blessed to even have a “plan”. Her solution for us is thankfulness. Lets be thankful that we have options to give birth in a hospital or at home, with medication or without medication. Lets be thankful that we don’t have to go into labor like a man goes to war; wondering if she is going to make it out alive (although this does still happen). But most of all let’s be thankful that God has created a person inside of us that we are entrusted to raise up in the fear of the Lord.
I heartily agree with her admonishment to us woman, and hope that in my two children’s labor and births I did not destroy my christian witness due to a sense of entitlement.
But I would like to take her thoughts a step further.
Is it just me or does the mom-zilla syndrome continue long after labor and delivery? Because I feel as though we live in a day-and-age where mom-zilla’s are on the prowl everywhere. They are back-talking each other about non-chemical laundry detergent, and organic almond milk, disposable diapers and breast-feeding.
I am totally aware that it is in our mother-bear nature to protect and nourish our children the best way we know how. We love them, so we want to raise them up well. And if you have the time and money to meet and pet every chicken your child eats, put them in 3 different extra-curricular activities, and use only homeopathic methods of medicine, then all the power to ya! I truly mean that. It is your God-given right to decide the day-to-day matters of how your child exists in the world.
My problem comes when we roll our eyes at each other and then push our personal biblically silent and amoral opinions on other mothers to make them feel like they must not love their children that much.
Lets take a page out of Nancy Ann’s book and just be thankful that we live in an area of the world that we have all these options. We are so blessed. Affluence is all around us, and yet we bicker with each other about nonsensical stuff like gluten-free diets and formula fed babies. Supporting each other and heart-felt gratitude is the only answer to these problems.
Thank the Lord Almighty for His grace on us woman. It could be far worse for us than it is.