Remember the movie She’s All That? I am ashamed to say I used to love that movie. But keep in mind I was a teenager and had a thing for Freddie Prince Jr. Just to refresh the memory of the contents of the movie, the storyline went something like this: Girl is a loser. She is smart, artsy and unattractive. Boy is popular. He is fun, sporty and good-looking. Girl takes off glasses, puts on short dress and becomes “beautiful”. Boy realizes he likes girl and they dance under the stars.
There is more to the story, but ultimately that is the deep plotline of the movie. So the moral of the story is this; look hot, and get any boy you want. This ugly duckling story played itself out in a lot of movies when I was growing up and it never bothered me much until now. Now that I have a daughter.
We all know the pressures for woman these days have gotten out of control. And we give it some lip service every now and then. And yet, still when we look in the mirror all we see is our blemish’s. In fact some of us obsess over our blemish’s. Some of us have dumped loads of money into our blemish’s, whatever they may be, so that we don’t have to see them when we look in the mirror anymore. Some of us starve ourselves, purge and cut ourselves, because we hate the number we see on the scale. It is sometimes all we can think about. We turn on the TV and we learn to hate ourselves again. Because there will always be someone prettier and thinner than us. And it kills us.
Where did we learn to think this way? And, more importantly what are we doing to reverse this thinking. At least for the sake of our daughters (and sons for that matter).
“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.” Proverbs 31:30
So where should our value come from? What should we be concerned about most in this life? We are to be in constant pursuit of the things of God. We should fear the Lord.
“The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom.” Psalm 111:10a.
What occupies your thoughts more? Looking more attractive or gaining wisdom? Because, if all you are is beautiful, there will not be much said about you at your funeral. But the woman who spends her day interested in what the Lord thinks of her, will not worry about what everyone else thinks about her physically. What matters is the contents of her soul, not her weight or breast size.
But do I really believe that? Because if I did, I would live differently. And I don’t believe the application to this is to disregard our appearance all together. We should care about what we look like, especially for the sake of our husbands. But humility isn’t about drawing attention to myself. Humility isn’t dressing a certain way just to draw compliments. Humility is drawing attention to others.
Beauty is fleeting ladies…But a woman who fears the Lord will be praised with the ultimate kind of praise. The kind of praise that actually matters. The kind that has eternal value.
So what are we after?
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