Let Me Direct You Elsewhere…

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The video edition…

What Did Your Parents Most Want You To Be? This is so true! But I must add that I look at this through a Christian worldview in that being good is impossible unless in Christ. So with that in mind, I agree with this video!

Elderly Veteran and Toddler – Two Peas In A Pod: This is very sweet and just might make you cry a little!

The Duet By Glen Keane: A beautiful animated short about growing up and falling in love.

Cause & Effect: This is a great video giving a glimpse into a myriad of different experiences through pregnancy.

The Middle East Problem: Here is a short video explaining what is usually described as a complicated issue. I am no historian and I know Prager is Jewish and therefore bias, so if there is info missing from this, let me know!

Word Crimes – Weird Al: He’s at it again. Here is his blurred lines parody that is much better then the original, cause it actually has something useful to say. Although I know I have made many of these same mistakes too!

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To Bikini Or Not To Bikini…

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Its bathing suit season ladies.

And if your anything like me, you will have sighed after that sentence. However there is a trend happening now where plus-size woman are taking back the bikini by baring it all with no care for others reactions as a way of freeing themselves from judgement. Woman all over are praising these brave ladies for their courage and self-confidence. Which means I should be raising a fist of solidarity too, right?

But whether you are a big-and-brave type or the type who takes pride in a bod that has spent all year being beaten into submission with Kale chips, green smoothies and cardio fit…I wonder, are bikini’s ever the way to go?

I know many woman of all sizes who would agree heartily with the need for more modesty, but then happily slap on a string two-piece come beach time.

No matter what you look like, is the bikini the ultimate sign of true inner-confidence?

This is a rhetorical question of course.

Modesty is a topic that even the most conservative of Christians are becoming tired of hearing about. Not because we disagree, just because we hear about it all the time. So we nod our heads and do our best. Right?

But I think we are growing weary because the focus is always negative. I believe God wants us woman to display beauty. I just think His beautiful is different than our beautiful.

I think a more appropriate question would be, does wearing a bikini display modesty, respectability, self-control, humility, and good works? And does it display a gentle and quiet spirit? (1 Peter 3:3-4, 1 Timothy 2:9-10)

Surely we should be asking ourselves this question about all our attire also. What we wear display’s something of ourselves. And if our confidence is based solely on our outward appearance, that will most definitely be reflected in the things we wear. In the same way, if our confidence is based in and on Christ and the truth of the gospel has taken root deep in our inner parts, that too will reflect in how we dress.

Everything we do outwardly is a reflection of what is going on inwardly. So if the heart is humble, so will words, deeds and even dress.

I know what your thinking…so that means all I can wear is boring drab turtle necks and long dress’?! Ya no. I just feel like our attire shouldn’t draw too much attention, whether it looks like we stepped out of The Little House On The Prairie or whether we look like a street-walker.

All Scripture that speaks about how a woman should adorn herself have principles for us today. And usually what it comes down to is humility.

Humility does not thirst for attention through outward appearance. Large or skinny, there is no question that bikinis draw attention. We are all looking at you. You are pretty much wearing your underwear in public. However in the same way, if you dive into the lake in a long sleeve shirt and full pants, we will also be looking at you. And probably worry you fell in.

Now before you label me the worst legalist around, let me end with this very important point. We must remember that all of us Christian ladies our on different journeys in this walk of faith. Some are new, some are seasoned, some are in between, but we are all on different paths. And God deals with us (in His mercy) by where we are at on the journey. So some of us ladies who have been convicted in this area and are now fiery about it need to lower the pitch forks of judgement when we see a sister who clearly isn’t in the same place as us. She needs your mercy and love.

This is a topic that indeed needs to be spoken about with grace and understanding so that woman can be made free, and not further shackled by legalism. It is important because God makes it important, and speaks about it a lot. For that reason, the conversation is necessary.

So what do you think? Bikini or no bikini?

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Picture Of The Week…

I haven’t done this in a while. I guess I’ve been busy being outside more and less on the computer, which is a good thing! But today I want to make this post about being grateful. Which is how I feel right now. So I’m just gonna call this post…

Thankfulness In Pictures!

Cheesy? Yes. But that’s ok. I’ve been living in this house and community for a year now and I couldn’t possibly feel more blessed to live here. So on with some pics…

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I’m thankful for this spot…My deck! I sit and drink my tea here almost every morning. It is the best place to start my day!

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I am thankful for Air Conditioning, especially in this heat that we are experiencing! And children who play well together. Yes, they destroy my house. But at least we have a house to destroy.

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I am sooo thankful for our play room/basement that the kids can create in and play in. Having this extra space is a wonderful luxury!

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I am thankful for my pots which hold all kinds of herbs. It is my favorite way to cook, and I love summer for its freshness in food!

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I love that our kids still have a yard big enough to have a swing set even though we live in a townhouse. They swing on this set almost every single day and I love to watch them!

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And I am super thankful that my kids have cousins that live minutes away from them! I also love that they all get along pretty well and really seem to love each other!

That brings us to the end! I hope your weekend is lovely and you are reminded of how blessed you are all throughout it!

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Let Me Direct You Elsewhere…

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I Could Have Sued And Won: This is a great little story of a woman’s hard decision not to react like the world in a situation that would normally have warranted it. But I love it for the fact that she didn’t give up her Christian witness for dollar signs!

Life, Liberty And The Pursuit Of Happiness: This very American post by DeYoung for July 4th is exactly how I feel about Canada. I just wish a Canadian would write something similar. Because Canada was founded on many of the same ideals, I concur with Kevin, but of course, for my own country!

Just Pretend This Dead Lion Is A Human Baby, And Then You Wont Be So Upset: I don’t always love the tone in which this guy writes, but I just can’t not appreciate his boldness on these controversial topics. And he just makes some good points.

In Canada – The Hadfields: It puts a smile on my face and makes me proud of being Canadian.

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Let Me Direct You Elsewhere…

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Darkness Is My Closest Friend: This is a helpful reminder of how to be honest in our struggle. But not honest in the spiritually safe kind of way. I mean truly, darkly, deeply honest.

Google Stops Porn Ads: This is huge! I just hope they follow through and then keep it that way! What a win!!

Why My Family Doesn’t Do Sleepover’s: Admittedly when I read this I was taken back because I have never ever thought about it. I always just assumed that my kids would have sleepover’s because I did. After reading this my husband and I had a long conversation.

Dear Young Person, Don’t Believe The Hype: I had the honor of having a recent post published again on the Aquila Report, so here it is in case you missed it.

Run Like A Girl: This is very effective advertising. A little cheesy, but good.

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Mommy, Remember Your Child Will Do Horrible Things…

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Isn’t that an upper for the morning!

My apologies this post has been on the tip of my tongue for years. And my husband wrote about it fantastically, which you can click here to read. But I just wanted to come at it from another angle.

“Behold, I was brought forth in iniquity, and in sin did my mother conceive me.” (Psalm 51:5)

As parents I think we all instinctively know that our kids like to disobey. We know it because we see it. We see our cute little toddler reach for the lamp just minutes after we scolded them not to. We see there little devilish grins as they sneak a cookie off of the counter after we just said no.

They have a bent toward disobedience. And I bet if I asked, most Christian parents would sign the bottom of a doctrinal paper that expressed that we are all born into sin and therefore sinners at birth, in agreeance.

“The wicked are estranged from the womb; they go astray from birth, speaking lies.” (Psalm 58:3)

So my question then is why are we so surprised when our kids sin? Why are we shocked when they get a little older and there sins get a little more…lets say…sophisticated? When it is no longer about markers on the wall, but more like blatant bold-faced lies, should we be taken aback?

I have seen with my own eyes a mothers unwillingness to believe her son was in the wrong when the evidence was glaringly not in the boys favor. She bought his obvious lie, because she just couldn’t believe he had the wrong-doing in him.

But he most certainly does have it in him. So do you. So do I.

I understand the temptation.

We want to think the best of our kids and we really don’t want to be embarrassed when they publicly sin in some way. I want to explain it away too.

It seems like a much better idea is to demonize and place blame on someone elses kid than to admit and then deal with my own child’s depravity. I get it. I struggle with it too.

And you see this happen with what my dear friend has labelled the “tattle tale parent”. This is the parent who feels the need to tell you every little minor and major wrong-doing your child displayed in your bathroom-break absence. This parent wants to be sure that you know how poor your child is in comparison to theres without out-right saying it. We like to keep a tally of other kids wrong-doings in order to make ourselves feel better about our kid.

Don’t get me wrong if my kid has harmed your kid and no facilitation of reconciliation on your part has taken place, then by all means let me know. And you better believe that if my kid is an aggressor in some kind of conflict with someone elses child, it will be dealt with and not explained away with excuses like, he had too much sugar or she missed her nap or it had to be an accident.

For this reason though, I try not to tattle tale on kids in my care unless a fire literally needed to be put out or if 911 needed to be called. I will facilitate appropriate apologies and then forget about it. Because I refuse to give a run-down to you of every normal child misdemeanor (unless you ask) without ever mentioning my kids also.

Are we prepared for the reality that as our kids get older, their sin will probably become more severe? They will probably do terrible things. I know this, because I did terrible things. And I still do them sometimes.

They will let us down. And frankly we should expect them too. As much as we want to believe our children are little angels and quite frankly, much better than your kid. It’s just not true.

Mommy-dearest I know your heart is to see your child grow up unblemished by the ferocious temptations of this world. I desire that too. And so we should pray. But we pray knowing that consequences for sin is a way in which the Lord sharpens us and makes us more like Him.

So lets not be so startled when our kids do horrible things and look at it as an oppurtunity to show them the grace of Christ over and over and over again.

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Life Update…Focusing On The Positive…

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As we prepare to have our son start kindergarten in September we find ourselves going through a series of child assessments once more.

It is something we are used to. My boy has been actively involved in the Child Development Center and we have had various elective assessments done on him. It has been an exhausting and sometimes depressing journey, but it’s all for our little man so we push on.

A couple of weeks ago one of the many school assessments brought on discouragement yet again. And once more I struggled with my own burdens of unmet expectations. I faced the trial of the reality head on and anew.

The journey can be lonely. All my peers get to rejoice in milestones after milestones with their children as we watch happily from the sidelines, while still longing for the same kind of joy. We battle the jealousy of “normal”.

But now I want to talk about the positive.

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Because last week our Child Development Rep came to our house to check up on our boy and wow, she had a lot of good things to say! Having it come from her meant more than anything, because she has been working with him for a year and has seen him in lots of settings like at home, in classes and at Strong Start. She has been patient and kind to him, being a source of grace and acceptance in his life.

As a mom, that is huge.

I know it is her job to be all those things, but as she spoke about my boy, she welled up with pride. Clearly this is more than a job for her. And for that I am so grateful to God!

For someone like me, who is more of a glass-half-empty type, hearing the positive things she had to say was desperately needed.

She told me she saw huge leaps forward in his behaviour. She saw him grow exponentially in physical restraint when patience was necessary. She was proud to see him start to eagerly approach social situations with confidence and positivity. She fawned over how sweet and delightful he was to work with. And was impressed with his politeness even in anxious moments. She made sure to encourage me that he responds extremely well with routine and that is pretty much what kindergarten is all about. So she is confident that in time he will respond well to school at least in that area. His speech is clearer and vocabulary larger. All in all she really loves our boy.

Not like I’m surprised about that. He is a sweet guy.

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Still she let us know of the continued areas of weakness, but today all I want to focus on are the milestones. For the sake of sanity and also because this is genuinely something to rejoice over. So rejoice I will.

I am so proud of him. He has been working so hard. Trust me. So hard! I wouldn’t want any other boy. God gave him to us and I just love him so much! Today I pray as Hannah prayed…

“For this child I prayed, and the Lord has granted me my petition that I made to him. Therefore I have lent him to the Lord. As long as he lives, he is lent to the Lord.” ~ 1 Samuel 1:26-27

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